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Writing for Therapy.



Everyone wants to be Heard. 


Your voice is as important as the president’s or Martin Luther King’s. Everyone has a voice and every voice should first be written, then heard. 

We are attention-seeking beings, there's a reason why we have a voice and there's a reason why we have ears—that is, so we can listen to each other. Not just hear—listen! Sure, anyone can hear you, just make a loud sound, but not having anyone to listen to you, now that is the factor here, and it could be quite frustrating. 


Listen to Yourself Constructively


We all speak to ourselves, probably not out loud but surely in the cave-walls of our skulls. Now let's take that a step further by actually writing these thoughts down: The unspoken words. The best therapy that I've found in my journey of life is writing down how I genuinely feel on paper. What I mean by this is writing your exact feelings about a particular subject, place, person or thing. 

A "getting it off your chest" mechanism; the best way to release stress is out. Wouldn't it be nice to not put the heat on someone, place, or thing yet rather on paper, where it's safe and no one can get hurt?


Throw Away the Pain


We often hold our tongues when someone hurts us, but what if we constructed those feelings into writing; cursing that person to an oblivion, expressing how mad he or she got us, then throwing it away—seeing how something as petty as silly shenanigans or an argument can get us in a rut for nothing. It's always important to throw away the "dirty papers". Why?

What you give onto others you'll end up giving to yourself and that includes hurting people. If someone hurt you and you try to get back at him or her for revenge, what you're actually doing is hurting yourself. Because, either that person will resent you or wish you harm in return, not speak to you again and put you on the blacklist, or straight up fight fire with fire. It is a no win situation. I'm not saying get punk'd around. Man-up if you have to but choose your fights wisely. Is it worth your time? Time is money and money is energy. So is it worth the investment? Write it down first; make the smart decision to get pass your predicaments with constructive writing. 


Writing is the Greatest Medicine


Many people result to smoking, alcohol, or a lust for drugs for the sake of being stress free or suppressing emotions. Bad idea, this is not a long-term fix, it's a temporary fix. Which in the process gradually decays your body after a certain peak in your life. 

It's so revitalizing to see how writing down my emotions on paper, 15 minutes a day or more, makes a strong difference in my social and personal life. There's not a day where I feel like I need a substance to drown in for the sake of repressing my emotional needs. The most natural thing you can do besides writing is meditate but writing how you feel down is much more powerful because you're not just being passive, you're actually releasing your strong emotional will with the power of your own words on paper—where no harm could be done on anyone or thing. 


It's Not a Secret 


Now getting these thoughts on paper is fun and it is a great place to find a therapist. You should always be your own therapist before allowing anyone else to enter your domain. 

And it is better safe to view yourself; dark desires, hatred and etc. before letting anyone else in. Only when it's "okay", when you have constructed those words together properly enough to do them onto another ear, should you let the cat out of the bag. 

This is not for the sake of keeping it all to yourself. Every problem will be heard on to others eventually, especially to those that you love and are close to. However, I think it is safe for you to check if it's necessary to speak these words how you first intended to or even at all. Words are powerful—they start wars!


Don't Forget to Throw Away the Trash 


After you have finished writing your dirty papers, it's time to clean up. Start with a fresh sheet of paper and write how you would like to feel rather not feel. 

THROW AWAY the dirty papers from any lurking eyes that may "mistakenly pick them up". Words unsaid but written are as equally as powerful than words spoken, if not, even greater. We all have our flaws and insecurities, if the wrong person picks up these dirty papers, they may cause a lot of damage.  How that person interprets the dirty paper may cause you to have to move out-of-town next week or get suited for a war. This all depends on the person's level of sensitivity which we can avoid all together by making sure that it goes into the waste composite to a wasteland very far away from home.


-Bernard Noel




Write to Design Your Life.

Do the Labor


Gather your tools. 


Paper and pen. Refrain from tablets, iPads, and smart phones. (Just for this once.) Writing by hand, I feel, will have much more value to you. Think of it as if you were writing a scripture, a scroll, a blue print to your life, and the key to it all is in your authenticity; your very own genuine handwriting, no matter how ugly you think it may be. 


My personal preference in tools include a fine point pen, like 'Le Pen (Marvy Japan)', and for paper, a 'Moleskine 3.5 x 5.5 pocket notebook'. Which you can find on:


Who Are You?


Trying to figure out who you are, if you're still trying to find you that is, can be a slight pain on your psyche. Truth of the matter is, this is what we were placed on earth for, to experience who we are as individuals. It can be very stressful and confusing when other people are trying to define you, especially loved ones. Deep inside you know who you are but can't define it... or find it? We are forever seeking ourselves through people around social grounds and these people are exactly who we need to help find us. 


Note Thyself. 


Write down people's perception of how they view you. Ask people who are close to you, who and what do they think of you. 

Who are you in their eyes really? 

Then, challenge these inquiries. Study your notes on you based on their ideas. Afterwards, think about any changes you think need to be made, based on your audiences eyes. 


You Are the Star of Your Own "Show"


After you've accumulated enough details about how people perceive you, it's time to write the change. Yup, that's write—sorry, I mean right. Many philosophers say that you have to make the change in you to see the change in the world. But yet when many people think about or even go about this quest, they don't know where to start. That's because they don't have the blueprint. The blueprint is writing down exactly how you want the world to see you. Be the star in everyone's eyes; the model people want to be like, simply by writing who you want to be. Always write in present tense starting with "I am" this now or that now. 


Make Sure That the Ego Acknowledges What You Wrote?


Now that you've jotted down how you would like to be perceived, it is time to go to war with the ego. A lot of books, teachers or psychologists would give you a means to hushing the ego; drugs, meditation or some type of discipline. However, I'll make it simple. The ego cannot die, if you drug down the ego it'll come back fighting even stronger. If you put the ego to sleep with meditation it'll come back in an uproar. If you kill the ego... well how can you kill something that is a part of you?


Writing down who you are on paper is half the design. Reciting who you are after you have written it—is your goldmine to stabilizing it as fact. 


Your new paradigm will alter the ego. Notice how I did not say kill, or put the ego to sleep. Alter the ego, which means you will have convinced the ego that your new state of 'being' is the actual you and your ego will stop the fight and join you. 


Write Again. 


You know who you are now, or at least close to it, you know what people say or know about you is either partially true or not true at all. You wrote down who you are and now you have something to prove, but it doesn't work overnight, continue endlessly on the subject of you until you get YOU right. Remember, we came here on earth to experience life so we will always be making adjustments in our life and in a constant need to change this or that no matter how small or big. So you can't stop writing when you think you've got it. Stop writing when you have experienced all that you want to experience in life. You are your own creator of life and the pen and paper is your key. 




Wait, hold on... Does that mean that I will never stop writing?


Not until you die... We text quite often don't we, the majority of us do. This is the future isn't it? Modern time folks!

Why, it's the thing to do. So there should be no reason as to why we can't take the time to do this activity. It's just the same as texting right? Well, I'm sure there can be a debate against the whole texting is like writing ordeal but that's okay—go ahead. Don't waste your breath here, because my point is not an argument. It's an idea, a shortcut in finding who you really are. 


You can stop writing whenever you feel like it however, without your blueprint, you can end up somewhere you don't want to be, hate the person you're becoming, or worst, someone else could be writing your life for you. 


-Bernard Noel





Write your manuscript in one season




What is your story about? (Write this in one sentence.)

Focus on gathering all of your ideas for your story in a clear and compact sentence. Once you can do this, or should I say master this, you will now have a story to tell. Keep it simple.



Who are your characters?

It's important to know how many characters will be playing in your stories and the purpose that they will be fulfilling throughout the journey as the role of your main character(s). 



What makes them unique? 

(If you don't have an idea of who your characters really are, neither will your readers.)

Create the mind and body of your characters, including psychological behaviors. Do they have any habits, fears, phobias, fettishes, things that they're hiding, twitches? How do they speak? This can be determined in the characters strengths, insecurities, background, upbringing and so forth. It's important for you to know all the gritty needy details of these character(s) that you are giving life too. However, it is not necessary for the readers to know what you know, only that it is conveyed through the showing of your words. 



(Where are you bringing your readers to?) What is the objective of the story? 

The goal(s) of your character(s) should be introduced earlier on in the story and progressed or even sometimes changed based on the obstacles that he, she or they have to face. Knowing this in advance will give you more freedom to play with your characters and have fun in the writing process. Never will you be faced with writer's block, and if you do stumble upon writer's block, it'll be minor. 


Constantly fuel your mind as to why you started writing your story in the first place. Have an automated reminder for your influence. For example, for my story Juice Kids I constantly reminded myself how happy, awe inspiring, funny, and very mysterious I wanted the story to be for kids all around the world. I even designed a vision board that continuously gave me the juice I needed to get things going. 



(What age group?)

If you want to write for kids, like I did, then you have to remember or practice the elements of amusing children. Think like a kid—I mean it! If you're writing for young adults then you have to step it up a notch and start getting into what teenagers are into nowadays. Because unlike kids and adults, teens are more prone to what's current. Which means that they are susceptible to modern trends and urban phrases; if your characters are saying words like "Holy mackerel!" Then you are out of date unless your book takes place in the time in which that term was used.  

1st Month


Write Trash. 

Write without stopping for the need to edit.

Most of the time our first manuscript or draft is always filled with errors anyways right? So why bother perfecting it as you write. You'll be wasting too much time on an irrational effort. Remember our focus here is in having you finish your manuscript in one season! Even if you feel like there's a lot of grammatical errors, who cares, just write it down until its all finished! So write trash!

2nd Month


What did you write?

Revise and edit your work until you iron out all of the wrinkles. This is when editing becomes vital. Do your revising, then send it to an editor to re-revise your work. Editing your work all by yourself is not the answer; there's always something in which your eyes did not catch. 


3rd Month


Know your story!

Polish out the plot holes that you may have. Make sure that there are no missing details that are vital to the story. See that the plot is clear and can be understood not only by yourself but also the masses. Your editor will also be of help in this phase. 


You're ready for a third eye!

Find someone you know that is an avid reader (who can also be your editor) who can clearly understand your story and validate that it make sense in the world of literature. Do not take upon someone who reads partially or does not understand literature. Not only will you be wasting your time but you'll be wasting his or hers too. You need a judge who 'in the court of literature' can honestly say that your story is book material. 

-Bernard Noel