Viewing entries tagged


Writing for Therapy.



Everyone wants to be Heard. 


Your voice is as important as the president’s or Martin Luther King’s. Everyone has a voice and every voice should first be written, then heard. 

We are attention-seeking beings, there's a reason why we have a voice and there's a reason why we have ears—that is, so we can listen to each other. Not just hear—listen! Sure, anyone can hear you, just make a loud sound, but not having anyone to listen to you, now that is the factor here, and it could be quite frustrating. 


Listen to Yourself Constructively


We all speak to ourselves, probably not out loud but surely in the cave-walls of our skulls. Now let's take that a step further by actually writing these thoughts down: The unspoken words. The best therapy that I've found in my journey of life is writing down how I genuinely feel on paper. What I mean by this is writing your exact feelings about a particular subject, place, person or thing. 

A "getting it off your chest" mechanism; the best way to release stress is out. Wouldn't it be nice to not put the heat on someone, place, or thing yet rather on paper, where it's safe and no one can get hurt?


Throw Away the Pain


We often hold our tongues when someone hurts us, but what if we constructed those feelings into writing; cursing that person to an oblivion, expressing how mad he or she got us, then throwing it away—seeing how something as petty as silly shenanigans or an argument can get us in a rut for nothing. It's always important to throw away the "dirty papers". Why?

What you give onto others you'll end up giving to yourself and that includes hurting people. If someone hurt you and you try to get back at him or her for revenge, what you're actually doing is hurting yourself. Because, either that person will resent you or wish you harm in return, not speak to you again and put you on the blacklist, or straight up fight fire with fire. It is a no win situation. I'm not saying get punk'd around. Man-up if you have to but choose your fights wisely. Is it worth your time? Time is money and money is energy. So is it worth the investment? Write it down first; make the smart decision to get pass your predicaments with constructive writing. 


Writing is the Greatest Medicine


Many people result to smoking, alcohol, or a lust for drugs for the sake of being stress free or suppressing emotions. Bad idea, this is not a long-term fix, it's a temporary fix. Which in the process gradually decays your body after a certain peak in your life. 

It's so revitalizing to see how writing down my emotions on paper, 15 minutes a day or more, makes a strong difference in my social and personal life. There's not a day where I feel like I need a substance to drown in for the sake of repressing my emotional needs. The most natural thing you can do besides writing is meditate but writing how you feel down is much more powerful because you're not just being passive, you're actually releasing your strong emotional will with the power of your own words on paper—where no harm could be done on anyone or thing. 


It's Not a Secret 


Now getting these thoughts on paper is fun and it is a great place to find a therapist. You should always be your own therapist before allowing anyone else to enter your domain. 

And it is better safe to view yourself; dark desires, hatred and etc. before letting anyone else in. Only when it's "okay", when you have constructed those words together properly enough to do them onto another ear, should you let the cat out of the bag. 

This is not for the sake of keeping it all to yourself. Every problem will be heard on to others eventually, especially to those that you love and are close to. However, I think it is safe for you to check if it's necessary to speak these words how you first intended to or even at all. Words are powerful—they start wars!


Don't Forget to Throw Away the Trash 


After you have finished writing your dirty papers, it's time to clean up. Start with a fresh sheet of paper and write how you would like to feel rather not feel. 

THROW AWAY the dirty papers from any lurking eyes that may "mistakenly pick them up". Words unsaid but written are as equally as powerful than words spoken, if not, even greater. We all have our flaws and insecurities, if the wrong person picks up these dirty papers, they may cause a lot of damage.  How that person interprets the dirty paper may cause you to have to move out-of-town next week or get suited for a war. This all depends on the person's level of sensitivity which we can avoid all together by making sure that it goes into the waste composite to a wasteland very far away from home.


-Bernard Noel